The Journey to Discovering Your Real Self

Being your authentic self is about knowing your authentic self through a journey of self-discovery. Discovering who you are before you enter the relationship is one of the most important aspects of this journey. Once you have a solid idea of who you are, then you will automatically show up as real. And you will attract a mate that also shows up as their authentic self. Now, if you have discovered your authentic self, then you are already ahead of the game. Just be yourself and this will naturally occur. If you are still discovering who you are, here are… Continue Reading This Article

First Date Do’s and Don’ts

The Do’s 1. Do put your best foot forward – This is your first impression with your potential new mate. Wear something nice. Think of it like an interview. Dress to impress without overdoing it 2. Do monitor your thinking – If you catch yourself in your head, employ thought stopping techniques. Be in the moment during your date and enjoy your time together 3. Do go in with a positive outlook – The point of dating is to find your other half. Let go of the worry that will come with a new date. Look forward to what this… Continue Reading This Article

Letting Go of Resentments and Living in Forgiveness

The way through resentments in a relationship is through forgiveness. I’m reminded of the serenity prayer when I think of past hurts in a relationship. “God granted me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference”. Behaviors in the past cannot be changed. They can be processed and forgiven, but never changed. It’s a good place to adopt the serenity prayer and realize that accepting and forgiving are the way out of resentment. How do you forgive someone? Write it all down and get… Continue Reading This Article

Why Joining a Sorority is Good for Your Mental Health

The beginning of the school year is upon us and those in the sorority life circle know that means one thing: Recruitment and joining a sorority. Recruitment is like Black Friday from the rest of the world. It’s the time when sororities go into “the black” and have met their numbers for the year. New members trample over each other to make it to their new home. And in the end, just like with the holidays, it is all worth it when you step back and look at the smiles on everyone’s faces on bid day. So you’ve come across… Continue Reading This Article

Managing Anxiety: Change the World from Unsafe to Safe

Anxiety can bring on the thought that nothing is going to get better and you’ll need to learn ways to manage anxiety. It can make it seem like the night will never end, especially when you can’t sleep. Or that nothing is going to change, especially if things haven’t been going your way. Anxiety can be an uneasy feeling in your chest or your stomach. It can be unhealthy thoughts in your mind. It can be tightness in your chest. Anxiety comes in many shapes and sizes, depending on the person. How does your anxiety manifest in you? The real… Continue Reading This Article

Break-ups teach you something, which is cause for gratitude and celebration

There are valuable lessons to be learned in break-ups and they are listed below. 1. Take what you learned In every relationship, you learn something. It can be a hard lesson; it can be a valuable lesson. In the end, you would do best to look at what this relationship taught you. Each sacred encounter can provide you with an opportunity for growth and evaluation. The growth can come in the form of what to do and what not to do in future relationships. It might show you how to be more vulnerable and emotionally available. It might teach you… Continue Reading This Article

Balancing act of relationships

Building relationships or keeping one takes a balance of having a person maintain their identity and creating a life as a couple. It is easy to fall into a relationship and lose yourself in the moment. When you start to put 100% of your energy into your relationship, you risk the chance of losing your identity and independence in the process. Here are some tips for you to continue to do throughout your relationship as a way to maintain your “I”. 1. Keep your own hobbies It’s always fun to date someone who has similar interests as you. This way… Continue Reading This Article

How to Strengthen Your Self Worth

Self worth is strengthened by creating identity for yourself. As women, we sometimes fall trap into creating our identities outside of ourselves. Sometimes, we look for relationships, jobs, friends, family members and outside entities to tell us who we are, instead of looking inside. Even if we look within ourselves to figure out who we are, we often name off our attributes, what we do for a living or descriptive things like our names, hair style or favorite color. It goes like this: “Hi, my name is Patricia and I am a teacher, who is sweet, loves the color green… Continue Reading This Article

Start putting yourself first and live your values

We’ve all been in a position where we really wanted to say no, but we found ourselves saying yes. Yes to a project at work when the old project is still in your desk. Yes to meet up with a friend for dinner when you’re exhausted from work. Yes to a child wanting a toy when your budget is tight this month. Logically, you know that you “should” say no but there is an emotional component that leads to the “Sure I can do that”. Looking for approval from others When you look outside of yourself for approval, you will… Continue Reading This Article

Endorphins make you happy

I love exercise. I love it for myself. I love it for my clients. I love it to treat depression and anxiety. What makes it so valuable for me as a person and a clinician is how it makes me and other people feel. I will always remember the movie “Legally Blonde” when Elle Woods discussed her view on exercise and mental health: “I just don’t think that Brooke could’ve done this. Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t”. This is an important lesson because endorphins do make you… Continue Reading This Article